Youth may be wasted on the young, but sex is for people of all ages. Even though intimacy takes different forms and meaning as we age, it can be just as satisfying – and the great benefits of a healthy sex* life are just the icing on an already pretty delicious cake.
Here are some helpful sex tips for mature couples:
This means keeping an open line of communication with your partner, as well as getting the input of a doctor if you’ve got any questions at all.
If anything, a medical professional will understand that sex and pleasure are a basic human right and have a very full grasp of what you and your body are going through, and what you can do to enjoy yourself in a safe and satisfying way.
When you’re discussing sex with your partner, be playful and honest. Humor can open the floodgates of conversation and take the pressure off what to many is a bit of an embarrassing subject. After the topic is on the table though, you’ve got to be open and honest; tell them how you feel, and what your hopes are for the outcome of your talk.
As we age, sex takes on a broader definition and can mean many things – sometimes, sharing intimacy is more important, and fulfilling, than sharing pleasure.
Sex can be about being content with each other; sharing affectionate contact like hugging and kissing (clothing optional) can be just as rewarding as a sexual session, and can often end up leading to it, too! Also, as many couples age, due to either erectile difficulties or a less lubricated vagina, some find foregoing intercourse and focusing instead on “outercourse” (ie. stiulating each other without an expectation of penetration) can be wonderfully erotic and even orgasmic.
Sex isn’t about recreating experiences we had when we were in our 20s, it’s about figuring out what works for us right now. As in tip #2, try stimulation without penetration. Oral sex, mutual masturbation or just fooling around together with some sex toys are just as enjoyable when they’re shared.
Try changing your sex routine and schedule to a time when you’re full of more energy; many people have their best sex in the morning after a good night’s sleep rather than at the end of a long day. Also consider switching up your intercourse positions to ones that are more comfortable and useful for both your sensual needs, like spooning or woman-on-top.
Sex toys may not have been something you’ve thought to use with your partner, but they can be a perfect remedy for increasing your chances of orgasming and bringing you closer.
Something like The Partner Whale is a small and easy way to light a spark. The U-shaped Partner Whale, made from skin-friendly silicone, is worn during sex to lead you to a rousing shared climax. It is fitted with two powerful motors that beguile you and him with enchanting vibrations. The vibrations of the Partner Whale are especially intense, meaning it provides particularly stimulating moments. One shaft lies on the clitoris and massages your love button, while the other massages his G spot and his manhood.
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Find a New Perspective
It’s easy for anyone to get too used to the same thing over and over, but something as simple as setting fun goals and challenges can make sex a game rather than a chore. One of the best ways to do this is by brushing up on the kama sutra. You may think that sex positions for seniors just means ‘missionary,’ but there are plenty more adventurous ones you can adapt to your comfort levels! Check out our illustrated sex positions, and remember that a firm cushion can make all the difference when it comes to adapting a sex position for older couples.
Let It Go
Don’t ever dwell on how things are different now compared to your younger years, and always keep a positive attitude and open mind for the pleasurable things to come. You’re older and wiser; you know your limitations and strengths – and your acceptance of all these things makes you that much more attractive to prospective partners.
Own your age and experience – they don’t own you!
Do you have any tips or suggestions for sexual health and enjoyment at an advanced age? Share them in the comments below.