Orgasms don’t have to be the be all end all of a sexual experience, but let’s be honest, they’re pretty awesome.It can suck when you’re not getting as much as you’d like.
From using a good sex toy to using your calendar, here are a few tips to get more of them.
Focus on Quality over Quantity
Sometimes we decide we want more orgasms because the orgasms we’re having are too fast, fleeting, or just not what we’d like. While you’re on the path to more, focus on the quality of the pleasure you feel now. Maybe that means taking your time and slowing down. It might mean adding porn or erotica to turn your mind on while you work on your body. Maybe you bring a sex toy or your partner into the fun to add extra sensation. Whatever you need to have better orgasms could lead to more orgasms, too.
Try a Sex Toy
Okay, all of that sounds great, but what you really want are MORE orgasms. Better would be nice, but you care about the number. If you usually use your hand to get off or orgasm during partnered sex, now might be the time to try a new sex toy. What works for you depends on what sensations you enjoy. If you love clitoral orgasms, a vibrator may be exactly what you need. The Mini-Vibe is known for multiple orgasms, as are products by Womanizer, Satisfyer, and more! If penetration, anal or vaginal, gets you off, consider a dildo or insertable vibrator. Focus on what really gets you off and find a toy that targets that area.
Use Your Hand
Have you been using sex toys for all your orgasms? It might be time to go back to basics and use your hand to increase your orgasm quotient. Yes, they’ll likely take longer to achieve, but sometimes what your body really needs is a different sensation. If you’re a devoted Fleshlight user, lube up your hand instead. For the dildo and vibrator lovers out there, let your fingers control your pleasure for once. It may take a while for your body to catch up to what your hand is doing, but it might also give you something new(ish) to crave.
The worst thing you can do in the quest for more orgasms and more pleasure is stress yourself out about it. You don’t need the added pressure that comes with performance anxiety. Focus on what feels good and how you become aroused. From there, if the orgasms flow, great. But if not, you can still have a good time with yourself or a partner. A lack of orgasm isn’t a fail as long as you enjoyed yourself during the process.