It’s easy to see when a couple have a healthy relationship because some defining characteristics for the success of a shared life can be well analyzed and worked on by the couple. These are matters such as respect, honesty, companionship, friendship, understanding and, of course, sex!
In addition to being determinant for the future of a relationship, keeping sex exciting in a long term relationship even helps people’s physical and mental health. A recent survey by the New England Research Institute in the United States showed that men who have sex two to three times a week are 45% less likely to have a heart attack or stroke than those who only have sex once a week or less.
And what is the secret behind the facts? According to the study, more intense sex life reduces stress, one of the major factors that lead to health problems.
Therefore, dear couple, the subject that we will discuss in this article is, besides extremely pleasant, a great guide to a healthier life for two. In the next few lines, you will see how sex can always be good for both women and men and how to keep sex exciting in a long-term relationship.
Lots of foreplay to keep the intimacy alive
One of the main complaints in the sexual psychotherapy clinics is the fast-paced partners in bed. In most cases, the complaint comes from the woman, as they usually require more time and involvement to get aroused. They take longer to be ready for sex, while men by nature get more aroused and tend to get ready to go faster.
For a more satisfying sexual experience, it’s important to dedicate a reasonable amount of time to the foreplay. They increase the couple’s intimacy. So that this attitude of “jumping the gun” doesn’t disappoint one of the parties, the dialogue between the two is essential to reach an understanding together.
Well done foreplay most of the time lead to intense orgasms. This initial caressing strengthens the couple’s bond and may help ward off those natural insecurities (feeling insecure about certain parts of their body, especially).
But like everything in life, the action should be very well balanced, as excessive demands for better performance during this stage will have the opposite effect.
Check out some sure-fire tips to make the foreplay a delightful stage:
Show everything and give lots of kisses
Admiring them getting out of the shower can be a delight for both parties. Try to put aside your worries about your weight or discontentment with your body. Show yourself to your partner.
Confidence is the key to seduction. Show that you desire your partner, and nothing reinforces this more than a provocative kiss during the sex.
Say teasing things through the phone
Sometimes the couple or one of the parties realizes early in the morning that the day will end on a sexy night.
Then it’s only a matter of increasing expectations through actions that the two can do during the day while they are still at work.
In a call or text message, one can tease the other saying provocative things and using spicy expressions.
Do oral sex with expectations
In bed, the woman can kiss all over his body, especially in the groin area. Ideally, you want to tease him to make him crave for the moment when he will finally have his penis inside his partner’s mouth.
He can slowly kiss the clitoris so the vagina gets well lubricated. Then, using his tongue, he can lightly touch the clitoris repeatedly and then finally wrap it completely with his mouth.
Erotic games are perfect for the foreplay stage They are fun and exciting. The couple can use all their creativity and makeup games (with accessories ranging from blindfolds, lingerie, sweet drinks, etc.) I would definitely recommend that you check out You & Me – A Game Of Love & Intimacy.
Make time for sex, anytime!
Ideally, as a couple, you should frequently choose a night where you have all the time and willingness for yourselves to satisfy each other’s desires and privacy to be able to moan freely.
However, in our day-to-day routine, we often don’t have time for that planned, long night of sex where everything is allowed. Couples with young children understand very well what we’re talking about. But of course, we already know the importance of sex in a long-term relationship, it can never be left out, even when we don’t routinely have opportunities to do it.
So that couples don’t have to schedule when they are gonna have sex or limit themselves to waiting for the best possible moment (which ends up not happening), the quickie can be a great alternative! It gives immediate pleasure and can be done in different places and while wearing clothes.
Not only that, the quickie comes along with very welcome emotions from the satisfaction of the moment. Because it is “unexpected,” there is often that worry about being caught in the act, which can be very exciting in most cases.
By the way, do you know how long a quickie lasts? Or how long does it take for the sex to be considered complete?
According to a University of Pennsylvania study in the United States, with 50,000 people, ten minutes of sexual intercourse is more than enough to get a woman to orgasm. If the sex lasts much further, she may get bored, or even feel guilty for not having made the man come already.
Check the evaluation below:
- Too short: If the sex lasts for 1 to 2 minutes
- Adequate: If the sex lasts for 3 to 7 minutes
- Desirable: If the sex lasts for 8 to 13 minutes
- Too long: Over 14 minutes
Of course, all these numbers are relative. After all, no one better than the couple knows their ideal sex duration.
Many couples have certain inhibitions when it’s time for sex. In some cases, these feelings interfere with sexual pleasure to the point of preventing women from reaching an orgasm or causing psychological impotence in men. In extreme cases, some people even relate sex to something unpleasant that should be avoided.
Experts say that the problem can be triggered by the person’s life experiences and their family education when they are not open to talking about the subject. Check out some tips to get over this situation:
Learn to like your body
Embarrassment with the body along with the fear of not being desired enough is one of the main factors linked to sexual inhibition. So the tip for both is to take advantage of what you consider more attractive in yourself: breasts, butt, mouth, height.
A porn movie is good
How about watching a porn movie together? As we all know, fantasizing is part of a healthy sex life. An erotic or pornographic movie contributes to the repository of sensual scenarios in the couple’s mind. It can also inspire you to try new things, like that anal sex scene where the husband wanted it like crazy and the woman was curious enough to try.
The couple’s satisfaction begins with personal satisfaction
Sometimes people get so worried if they are satisfying their partners that they neglect their own feelings. The first step to delightful sex is the pursuit of your own satisfaction.
Invest in erotic products
The couple that has the habit of using sex toys during sex is open to new horizons, to the increase of their intimacy and creativity. The fact that there is always something new in sex shops also helps in breaking the routine. The most popular items are vibrators, cock rings, bondage accessories, gels, and lubricants. However, there are many other sex toys to choose from. While searching and experimenting, the couple can find their favorite item.
Practice voyeurism together
How about practicing voyeurism? The idea is quite simple: the woman, for example, lies in bed and begins to masturbate, or even just taking off her clothes, and her partner is there, seeing everything, as if invisible. Voyeurism is one of the most famous fetishes. We can say that most people take pleasure in watching or being watched in a libidinous way. What happens is that these feelings are traditionally inhibited or unspeakable.