BEGINNERS GUIDE TO BONDAGE

Beginner's Guide To Bondage

With the recent explosion of book sales for the notorious “Fifty Shades of Grey“, many more first timers are expanding their bedroom horizons and exploring their sexual tastes in the bedroom. The term bondage brings many things to people’s minds. To some people the idea of bondage is hot wax, candles, whips and chains. To many it is simply having their wrists held down during love-making, or it may involve having certain body parts tied together while their partner helps with a sex toy.

Bondage is the act of restraining a person during or for the purpose of a sexual encounter. Rough sex and bondage to some may sound like a fantastic time but the use of a safe word or even restraints that have a release option are a must for anyone. Communication is the key to safe sex play and it is no different with bondage. Talk to your partner about rules and limits that cannot be broken. Explore your equipment and test the safety releases, if you cannot get the release by yourself without assistance do not leave the restrained participant alone for any reason. Keeping the mouth of the restrained participant unobstructed is a must as a safety precaution; everyone has a limit for pain and pleasure.

For beginners who are just starting out you could pick up some sexy outfits, love rope or padded handcuffs and indulge in an erotic massage. Take things slow and while it’s ok to try new things, make sure all involved are ok with what is happening. Using a silk scarf as a blind fold, tickling sensitive body parts, even light biting, everything seems to be magnified when you are restrained and cannot wriggle away.

Part of the thrill of bondage is the fantasy that anything could happen and you cannot control the unexpected. Fantasy lingerie, adult costumes or other clothes just for adults can heighten the entertainment for both partners. Other toys to consider for more adventurous couples include cock rings, a butt plug, male sex toys, strapons, nipple clamps, a dildo or even anal beads. For a more extreme setting you could even consider some sex furniture.

As with any new bedroom experience there are a few safety tips to remember. Don’t try being tied up for the first time with someone you do not trust. It is perfectly ok to ask to be released or use the safe word if you feel overwhelmed or claustrophobic. Always take precautions and never do up any restraint too tight or force anyone to stay in an uncomfortable position for too long. The obvious rules for safe sex still apply; use condoms for penetrative sex and never under any circumstances engage in any bondage while under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

There are many bonuses to experiencing bondage. The thrill of having your partner laid out in front of you and the knowledge that you can do anything (within limits); or the idea of being tied to the bed and you have to endure your partner teasing you to climax without being able to assist. Just make sure that whatever harness, rope, toy or oil you use; make sure your partner is having as much fun as you are.

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